Top five ways to lose my respect.


  1. Jump to conclusions about people. There’s nothing more shortsighted than failure to afford someone the courtesy of telling his/her own story. People who exhibit this specific form of prejudice make it difficult for me to believe that their intellect is tempered with wisdom.
  2. Be a meanie. Whether you’re doing it to me, other humans, or our environment, unkindness is a really, really unattractive trait. A coldhearted spirit drains the life out of me faster than the crystalline entity, and I prefer not to spend too much time around such toxic forces.
  3. Be shallow. It is nearly impossible for me to look up to anyone who can’t relate the most time-consuming things in their life right now to a larger plan for making the world a better place.
  4. Be conceited. This can be expressed in many different ways, ranging from subtle but intentional neglect, to overt refusal to make small concessions for the sake of a relationship. In any form, this incarnation of pride is really hard for me (and, I suspect, for those who exhibit it) to see beyond.
  5. Be sneaky. I really don’t mind secrets, because they can easily be lumped into the infinite expanse of everything else I don’t know. Heck, I can even tolerate occasional dishonesty, because it can often be handled with the allowances I already make for normal mistakes in communication or interpretation. But, I can’t think of anything more disrespectful to me than an intentional effort to adjust my thoughts, emotions, or actions without my knowledge or consent. I’m a naturally trusting person, but manipulative folks will find that trust incredibly difficult to regain.

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